Seven year olds having fun

Seven year olds having fun.

If we carefully observe the games of seven-year-olds, we'll see, that they recreate in them primarily these situations, which they remember most, most moved, who lived the hardest. If we listen to their monologues, we will have a picture of problems, that occur in the classroom. We will hear; How do you address your students?, how and why he praises them, what behaviors he considers reprehensible. We can easily recreate the atmosphere, that prevails in the classroom.

At school, a child acquires many different important skills, among other things, he learns to evaluate himself. After all, he still compares his achievements with those of his peers. And he still hears the assessment of his work by the teacher and by colleagues. When he comes home, parents usually ask too: What was at school today? What were you doing? What were the other kids doing? How did your job go? You liked it? What did your friends say about her??

So again, they expect objective self-evaluation from the child. Okay, if you can boast of success, if you have done something better than others, or at least not worse, than others. But the day comes, where something goes wrong, does not come out despite the efforts. The child sees, that others have been successful, and it's not. He learns to experience the first failures in his life, learns, that it is not always possible to count on good results in everything. And now he is not always satisfied with himself and the results of his work. These are serious matters, serious experiences.

There are overly ambitious children, such, who would always like to excel in everything. These children experience their first failures very painfully. Many parents try to mitigate these disappointments, translate, that not every person is equally gifted in all directions and not able to achieve equal success in every field. One child reads very beautifully, others draw nicely, still others run faster than their colleagues. So everyone is good in some particular area. the most important, to achieve such high scores, what we can afford. And I can come to terms with it, that others can do better, prettier, more efficiently.

Others are always satisfied with themselves and with the results of their activities, convinced, that they are doing great. They feel every remark from the teacher or criticism from their peers as an injustice, undeserved malice. In such situations, it is worth teaching a more objective assessment of one's own activity, show deficiencies, shortcomings, while providing, that with a little more effort, better efforts, the results of work will turn out to be more successful.

Some kids pretend, that they really don't care that much. They have no ambition, to stand out in any way. This attitude of theirs is usually caused by low self-esteem. Even if they can't spell it that way, they think, that they cannot do anything better than their colleagues, or at least as good as the others. And in fear of failure, they manifest, that they don't care, what results they will achieve. Therefore, it is worth awakening their faith in their own abilities, convince, if they make an effort, they are no worse than their peers.

Finally, there are children not only deeply convinced of this, that they are inferior to their peers in almost every respect, but also not hiding this opinion about themselves from others. They confess openly, that they can't - although they would like to – draw as well as others, they have no math skills, they can't sing a song. Their prejudices, usually caused by a specific situation, unpleasant experience, often turn out to be unfounded. But without the help of adults, they cannot objectively assess their abilities. Recognizing their achievements, albeit even small ones, It will help you regain your self-confidence, encourages you to make an effort, will develop ambition.