Science or fun.
Mother to an eight-year-old boy in front of a toy exhibition:
"You'd be ashamed."! So big, and you think about toys all the time. I can buy you a book.
The mother of a 1st grade student at a parent meeting:
- I persuaded my Asia, to give all the toys to the neighbor's 3-year-old son. Why should they interrupt her studies?.
Extreme examples. Few families reject a child in such a rigorous way, which started school, the right to play. For many, however, the issue becomes a problem: how to respond to your child's play and toys. buy new? Or maybe these, which he has, enough for him? It's going to be less fun. Limit playtime, or leave the freedom to choose the most favorite activities? Many parents are concerned about this fact, that the child is picked up after returning from school, as before, to play.
Here is a complaint from the grandmother of a nine-year-old granddaughter :
"I'm worried about Cassie. He comes home from school and instead of doing his homework, pulls out the dolls, mission, he puts them on the couch, and stands in front of the blackboard, she picks up a chalk and pretends to be a teacher. He says something and he talks to those toys of his. Then he writes on the board. And how the teacher talks to the doll: "You see, you didn't care, as I explained, and now you can't repeat it. Why don't you listen? Why are you doing something else in class?? I will tell you again, but now, remember, you have to be careful." She's so into the fun, he pays no attention to anything. I'm trying to get her away from it, do something else, I want, to come back to reality. But I'm open to every offer: "Wait, grandma, we'll deal with that later. I need to have some fun first.”
Many parents complain, that the child went to school, and so childish.
Going to school, take up once , first serious duty in my life, which one would like to perform well – and for my own satisfaction, and to meet parents' expectations, and also Mrs, the greatest authority today – is a great and important experience for a child.
He was able to participate in classes in kindergarten, which suited him best, at any moment he could separate himself from the group and play alone. She was always proud and satisfied with the results of her work. His coloring books and puppets were praised by you, parents enjoyed them, and Grandma used to tell her friend on the phone - he had heard it with his own ears – what a smart grandson he has.
At school, a child must submit to certain things, applicable to all rules. And it's not the easiest. Through 45 minutes – he wants it, or not - he must sit quietly in the pew, listen to this, what you say and deal with it, what the couple expects and requires. His behavior and activities are constantly evaluated. By teacher and classmates. Not only his, but you judge all children. One praises, complains about others, because they don't behave properly, they don't think so, they don't listen to it, what the teacher says, interfere with the lessons. It's not pleasant, when you get angry even at others. And it's really very sad, if he looks in the notebook and says, the letters are ugly, or even badly written.
Every day, In almost every lesson, a lot of important and completely new problems appear in school, which need to be addressed somehow. You have to think them through. You just have to experience it again. So many children, just like Kasia, After returning home, he starts playing school. It is the child's re-enactment of certain situations, in which it has recently participated, helps him understand them better, properly assess. Playing school is a kind of psychodrama played by a child. He needs it. Playing it again and again - always a little different – situation, that happened at school, the child is slowly gaining distance to them, begins to evaluate them properly. Even the very difficult matters a few hours ago begin to see in other dimensions.